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Is there such a thing as a fast fix that lasts?
Pretty much as soon as people find out I’m a hypnotherapist (just after they try to hide their eyes from me in case a make them cluck like a chicken)and Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, practitioner they promptly tell me that there is nothing I can do about their terrible problem that they’ve had for so many years, because it’s so deep seated. Often these people are the easiest to treat and have their problems resolved quickly, simply because they can believe so deeply.
As an example I was speaking with a young lady who told me that she had a chocolate “obsession” often eating several bars a day! As it was such a terrible problem, she asked me how many sessions it would take to fix it? I asked if she had 10 minutes to spare right there and then, and we chatted about the “problem”. At the end of the 10 minutes she had decided that she didn’t need to eat chocolate anymore. So she was provided with a quick fix. Did it last? When I spoke to her some 10 months later, as chocolates were being handed round, she said “No thanks I don’t eat chocolate anymore”. She had in fact had only one chocolate in that time and decided she didn’t really like the taste. So a quick fix that lasted.
A “one off” I hear you say? How about a person who was so frightened of spiders that she couldn’t bear to see a picture of one! Even a picture would send her screaming from the room. 10 minutes later she could quite happily sit there with a spider in her hands! Even years later she still has no problem with spiders! Another quick fix that lasted.
I believe that the key to a solution is not simply to “talk to someone’s unconcious”, but to help them to find a solution themselves. Once someone makes a positive decision in both their concious and unconcious mind, there is nothing that can stop them.
OK so I’ve given only 2 examples of where a quick fix has lasted, but then if the approach is right (solutions focused), and the client realises the solution themselves (with help and guidance), how can they fail?
Using the above actually worked for me. I have had a phobia about needles since I was a child, through my 20′s and into my late 30′s. I hated the thought of being scared (having served in the military I hated the thought of being out of control). Anyway, I couldn’t control my behaviour when I was presented with a needle. I would sometimes scream and run, sometimes lash out violently, and even curl up in the corner of a room crying! Some great soldier I was, huh? I met my wife who is a type 1 diabetic and has to inject insulin several times a day. At first I had to leave the room. One day, during my NLP training course I came to the conclusion that I didn’t need to be frightened of needles anymore. I realised that I had a choice to not be frightened! SO that evening I went home, prepared my wife’s needle and proved to myself that I didn’t have to be frightened as I held the needle about half an inch from my eye! My wife’s face was a fabulous picture that night I can tell you.
It’s natural to believe that if you’ve suffered from a problem for years it’ll take years to solve it, but then doesn’t the above cast some doubt on that! I certainly know of several people that will agree with me.
If you would like to know more, challenge my beliefs, maybe even agree with me, feel free to contact me at Ananda Healing.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, I guess it shows what a few minutes of your time is worth!